15 July 2007 by Published in: General News 12 comments

We just got home to Columbus. Susan spent 11 days with my parents, and I was there for nearly 8. I am mentally and physically exhausted.

My father is in the rehab unit. For eleven days post-stroke, he’s doing remarkably well. He’s completely out of danger. For the first several days after the stroke, he was pretty much completely paralyzed on the right side. He’s gotten back movement in both his right arm and right leg. He can raise his arm, and he can point his index finger. He can bend his knee, flex his foot, and wiggle his toes. He still has a great deal of trouble finding words and communicating, but his speech is more clear than it was. The progress is really pretty remarkable.

At the same time, this is a marathon, not a sprint. Progress is measured in tiny steps, not giant leaps, and my mother is having a great deal of trouble dealing with that. We still have no idea whether he will ever be able to come home, or whether he will spend the rest of his days in a nursing home, which is what I suspect. He is extremely frustrated by his inability to communicate as he wants and he’s also frustrated by his inability to get his body to respond. He got very upset today when we left–he didn’t want us to go. Had doctors understood the concept of ADHD when my father was a child in the 1930’s, there is absolutely no doubt in my mind he would have been diagnosed as such. Even at 86, he still shows a lot of the major symptons of ADHD, and has never been able to sit still. He’s got to be going bonkers over not being able to come and go. Poor guy.

My mother is also having a tremendous amount of difficulty dealing with the concept of being alone after 48 years, which I can certainly appreciate. I’ve arranged for her to have someone help her, and we’re doing the best we can. Personally, I am exhausted, and I am dealing with a great deal of guilt at the moment about leaving.

We will be here until my father’s birthday, which is August 10. We will head back to Pennsylvania for his birthday, when he will be 87. For now, it’s back to our normal routine. Both of us have to earn some money, pure and simple.

Tomorrow, however, we’re going to enjoy a treat. Some of you might recall that Susan and I celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary on June 27. We decided to do something fun and special for ourselves to celebrate our anniversary. Before our anniversary, I purchased two tickets for us to see The Police in Cleveland tomorrow night. I saw them in 1981, 1982, and 1983, and I’ve been waiting for nearly 25 years for another opportunity to see them. I wasn’t going to miss that chance when it presented itself, so we’re heading up there tomorrow night for the concert. That’s something just for us. I know I need it.

Tuesday night, I promise to get back to posting about things pertinent once again. I have a significant announcement to make and will do so on Tuesday.

And, I wanted to thank everyone who has posted kind words or kind wishes here, as well as for the numerous private e-mails I’ve received from you. You have no idea how much they’ve meant to me and to my family, especially as we struggled through these extremely difficult days. I also wanted to say a special thank you to old friend Brooks Simpson for the terrific hockey post he dedicated to me yesterday. Thanks, Brooks. I needed that.

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Comments

  1. Steve Basic
    Sun 15th Jul 2007 at 9:53 pm

    Eric,

    Glad to read that yor Dad is improving, and know how hard it must be on your Mom. Hang in there Pard, and I hope you and Susan enjoy the concert tomorrow night in Cleveland.

    Kudos to Brooks as well, even if he is an Icelanders fan. 😉

    Take Care!

    Steve

  2. Don
    Sun 15th Jul 2007 at 10:47 pm

    Eric,

    Glad to hear the good news about your dad and hope things continue to improve. Have fun at the concert tomorrow night.

    I enjoyed Brooks’ post. Now if they can make a trade or two and pick up the odd free agent….

  3. Paul W
    Sun 15th Jul 2007 at 11:04 pm

    Family is always pertinent. The Civil War is history and will wait.

  4. Dave Powell
    Mon 16th Jul 2007 at 6:17 am

    Eric,

    Enjoy Sting and the lads. I understand they are playing to big crowds, and sounding pretty good.

    Hope things improve even farther with your dad.

    Dave

  5. Ptrostle
    Mon 16th Jul 2007 at 10:13 am

    Eric,

    Good to hear the news on your father. So much of what happens now is expectation management.

    I’m seeing the Police with my bride Friday night in Hershey. Let me know how the do!!

    Phil

  6. Mon 16th Jul 2007 at 11:18 am

    Eric good to hear that things are looking up for your father and I am sure that your parents are grateful to have a son like you. I just found out that my uncle had a stroke last week. He was at a doctor’s appointment in a hospital up in PA at the time, and suddenly lost all sense of who he was and where he was. He managed to make it to the ER and they think that he will be OK as they were able to deal with the situation immediately. I’ll keep praying for both. Every day is a gift my friend – every day.

  7. Brian S.
    Mon 16th Jul 2007 at 12:34 pm

    Eric,

    God bless you, your wife and your mom and dad. Sounds like your dad will make a good recovery. I don’t know what to say about having to leave your dad and go back home. It’s tough to do. On a lighter note; when I was a kid,riding on the school bus, we used to listen to an 8-track!! tape of the police ALL the time. Same tape over and over. And my sisters are going to see the police this Thursday in philly. They’re pretty excited about it. Again, take care Eric, life ain’t easy sometimes. Brian

  8. Mon 16th Jul 2007 at 1:59 pm

    Eric:

    Glad to hear your father is getting somewhat better. My mother had a stroke 5 years ago and was paralyzed for 9 months before she died at 59.

    It is hard to see them in the hospital like that. You have to stay strong when they get like that.

    Chris

  9. Lanny Thomas Tanton
    Mon 16th Jul 2007 at 3:13 pm

    Dear Eric,

    We are continuing to pray for you and your family as you go through these days of anxiety and care. I wish I had some pastoral magic wand that could make things better. Instead we must trust the grace of God to answer our prayers and to be thankful for what we have. Shalom!

    Best wishes always,
    Lanny

  10. Mon 16th Jul 2007 at 9:55 pm

    I saw the Police in 1981, 1982 or 1983. I can’t remember which . . .

    Glad to hear your dad’s improving. Sorry to hear you feel so guilty.

  11. Mike Nugent
    Tue 17th Jul 2007 at 5:13 am

    Your Dad has been in our thoughts and prayers. Glad to hear there’s been some improvement.

    BTW, the Police are playing Fenway in Boston. That ought to be quite a show!

    Mike

  12. Charles Bowery
    Tue 17th Jul 2007 at 8:00 am

    Eric,
    My best wishes and prayers to you, your family, and your Dad. My father is now 78, and my mother just passed 70. As they get more frail, I can certainly sympathize with what you are going through.

    Take care,
    Charles

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